Anyone who has children understands the dynamics of raising them. You’ll have moments when they seem to do everything you say and then there’ll be moments when defiance will make you scratch your head and ask questions after questions about what to do.
Sarah MacLaughlin, LSW and parenting educator and coach has offered 7 new ways to navigate defiance from your child.
Here are the 7 New Ways:
1. Don’t ever take it personally.
“Your child is not refusing to eat breakfast to intentionally frustrate you. She is not saying “No way” about getting in the car to annoy…”
2. Consider why they refuse.
“Imagine a day when you get up, and before you can even take a breath someone is telling you what to do…”
3. Talk to yourself.
“There is no better tool for staying calm than the use of positive self-talk. In order to pull off ‘Don’t take it personally,’ you will need to speak to yourself inwardly about what is happening in front of you.”
4. Reflect and honor a child’s feelings and meet them where they are.
“Allow a child her feelings of rebellion and engage in a warm way.”
5. Hold boundaries on unsafe behavior only.
“Here’s what I mean by this: When your child loses it and their nervous system is overloaded — there is no teachable moment.”
6. Keep a positive view of your child.
“Know that raising respectful, kind, productive members of society is a marathon and not a sprint.”
7. Use some humor and power play.
“Humor, when used wisely, is a very valuable tool.”
To read the 7 New Ways in its entirety, click here
Remember: if you want the best out of your child, you have to take the initiative. Let it begin with you and get ready for positive results.
Source: Huffington Post
Dr. Sinclair Grey III is an inspirational speaker, motivator, author, organizer and liberator of persons from all intellectual, social and cultural walks of life. He is a committed advocate for communal change. Email: email@example.com. Follow on Twitter @drsinclairgrey